August,
2002
Dr. Bill Gaultiere
Director of New Hope & Psychologist with ChristianSoulCare.com
(714)
971-4213, DrBill@CrystalCathedral.org
If
you're taking this class by CE Notes or tape then complete this
exam and turn it into Sheila on T-5 or at SheilaS@CrystalCathedal.org
in order to receive credit.
| 1. |
The
problem with the philosophy, "Just be true to what you believe"
is that God's authority and wisdom are disrespected. |
T |
F |
| 2. |
Valuing
the 10 Commandments is not important for New Hope Counseling. |
T |
F |
| 3. |
Guilt
is a harmful emotion. |
T |
F |
| 4. |
New Hope Counselor's
shouldn't think about what is the right thing to do for
a caller's/chatter's moral dilemma. |
T |
F |
5.
A good rule for New Hope Counselors responding to a moral dilemma
is
Consider
each counselor intervention below on its degree of helpfulness
to the caller/chatter. Rate each counselor response by placing
a mark on the line. A New Hope caller/chatter opens a conversation
saying, "I want to divorce my wife because I'm in love with
another woman, but I don't want to hurt my kids."
6. Early
response: "You can't do this to your kids."
Hindering
__________________________________________ Helpful
7. Early response: "You know God
hates divorce."
Hindering
__________________________________________ Helpful
8. Early
response: "Your happiness is important too."
Hindering
__________________________________________ Helpful
9.
Early response: "It seems you feel afraid to break up your family."
Hindering
__________________________________________ Helpful
10. Early response: "What other concerns
do you have about divorcing?"
Hindering
__________________________________________ Helpful
11. Early response: "How do you feel
about having this affair?"
Hindering
__________________________________________ Helpful
12. Later response: "You need to tell
your wife about this."
Hindering
__________________________________________ Helpful
13. Later response: "How long do you
think you can continue the affair before your wife finds out?"
Hindering
__________________________________________ Helpful
14. Later response: "You can't continue
the marriage if you don't feel love for your wife."
Hindering
__________________________________________ Helpful
15. Later response: "God will still
love you if you get a divorce."
Hindering
__________________________________________ Helpful
16. Later response: "What is the right
thing for you to do?"
Hindering
__________________________________________ Helpful
17. Later response: "How can you resolve
your conflict of being torn between two women?"
Hindering
__________________________________________ Helpful
Homosexual Chatter Role Play
Please respond
as a New Hope Counselor to this chatter's comments. Then use
the "A-B-C's of New Hope
Counseling Checklist" and "Responses to Avoid in New Hope
Counseling" to evaluate each of your responses. Identify each
type of response (e.g., "reflection," "open question," "advice,"
etc.).
I think
I'm gay. I've felt this way for 3 years.
I feel okay
about it, but I haven't acted on it.
I've talked
to my best friend about it. And a psychotherapist. One said
it was ok. The other said it was not ok.
I feel okay
about it. But I want to know how you feel about it. What does
God feel about it? How come Dr. Schuller never talks about gay people.
I
think God won't be happy if I pursue a gay relationship. Because
the church says that homosexuals are evil. Will God accept
me if I pursue a gay relationship?
Is
homosexuality a sin that I must confess? Or if I marry a man
will I be okay?
But,
if I feel that marrying a man is ok, and I trust in God's grace
and forgiveness, will everything be okay?
My
boyfriend is a very strong Christian. He seems okay with it.
He feels that God accepts him the way he is.
So
it seems that what you're telling me is that I should have a
daily relationship with God and that he will speak to me about
how he wants me to live my life. But what if I am deceived?
What it I think everything is okay but I'm actually listening
to the devil?
Can't
you just tell me that it is okay to be a homosexual? Can't you
just tell me that the church will accept me "just as I
am?" I've tried to change, I've tried so hard but the more
I try the more I just want to be with men? Why can't I just
accept myself for what I am? Why can't my boyfriend and I just
be happy in God?
Will
you pray for me? Can you pray on the computer?
I feel God's
presence. I hope He blesses you for your work in my life today.
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