New Hope
CE Notes, October 2002
William
Gaultiere, Ph.D.
WELCOME!
I put
more time into preparing for this New Hope CE class than any
other one I've taught in eight years. Why? Because I have
three children at home who are soon to enter adolescence and
at New Hope we have 21 teenage volunteers. Because every
day people talk to a New Hope Counselor about sex. And because
you and I live in an R-Rated culture.
I hope
you find what you need from this class - instruction for New
Hope Counseling for starters, but also encouragement personally.
When it comes to sexual purity maybe you need healing or forgiveness.
Others need help living as God intended. Many of you, like
me, are also concerned for your children or grandchildren.
May God
be present as we learn together.
WE
ALL NEED HELP WITH SEXUAL PURITY
A new
pastor moved into town and went out one Saturday to visit
his church members. All went well until he came to one house.
It was obvious that someone was home, but no one came to the
door even after he had knocked several times. Finally, he
took out his card and wrote on the back, "Revelation 3:20"
and stuck it in the door.
The next
day, as he was counting the offering he found his card in
the collection plate. Below his message was a note, "Genesis
3:10." Upon opening his Bible to that passage, his face turned
red, and he let out a roar of laughter.
Revelation
3:20 reads: "Behold, I stand at the door and knock.
If any man hear my voice, and opens the door, I will come
in to him, and will dine with him, and he with me."
Genesis
3:10 reads: "And he said, I heard thy voice in the garden,
and I was afraid, because I was naked."
CHILDREN
ARE LIKE STEM CELLS
Do you
know what a stem cell is? It's a cell in your body that hasn't
yet differentiated, meaning that it hasn't yet developed into
a specific part of the body. So it has the ability to become
any kind of bodily tissue or fluid depending upon the environment
it grows in. This is remarkable and it's why these cells
are so valuable to medical science. So if a stem cell is
in the brain then it becomes a nerve cell or a neuro-transmitter
or a hormone. If it's in the heart then it becomes heart
tissue. If it's in the eye then it becomes part of our visual
system.
How does
this relate to sexual purity? Children are like stem cells.
The environment in which they are raised influences what they
grow up to be. They assume the characteristics of the influences
that surround them at home, church, school, their friends,
the movies, TV, the Internet, whatever. (Focus on the Family
newsletter, May 2002)
AN
EXAMPLE
15-year
old Desiree felt the pain in sharp stabs as she walked into
her health class. She thought it was menstrual cramps, but
the pain worsened. It got so bad that she fell to the floor
writhing and crying out. She was admitted to the hospital
where she learned that she had gonorrhea. "I was really scared,"
Desiree said. "I felt so stupid and lowdown." As she laid
in her hospital bed she worried about how to tell her father.
Then she heard the doctor make snide comments about promiscuous
teens. She was told that one more gonorrhea infection could
make her sterile. "My room was on the third floor and I thought
I should jump."
WE
LIVE IN AN R-RATED CULTURE
Pornography
70% of
teens 15-17 online have accidentally accessed pornography.
41% felt it was "no big deal." (Family Voice, May/June 2002)
Sex addicts
I've worked with in private practice started by looking at
pornographic magazines they found at a friends house, or in
a apartment trash dumpster. The images stuck with them and
what started as accidently viewing became an obsession that
doesn't stop. Sexual addiction of all addictions has the
highest relapse rate of over 95% - even among Christians.
AFA reported
that quarterly catalogs of Abercrombie & Fitch, the popular
clothing retailer are filled with photographs of nude young
people. Abercrombie's Back to School Issue was stuffed with
sexual themes, including homosexuality, group sex, sexual
bondage and even implied bestiality. The young people who
read its articles and columns are encouraged to masturbate,
engage in oral sex and fornicate - using food. (American Family
Association, June 2002)
My 11-year
old niece was embarrassed at school last year because her
friends were talking about Abercrombie and Fitch selling flavored
condoms in there store and she didn't know what condoms were.
Yet I've seen 4 year olds from Christian families wearing
their clothes. I've even seen Christian moms carrying bags
with pictures of men and women in swim wear.
Pre-marital
Sex
1 in 10
children report losing their virginity before age 13 (Center
for Disease Control and Prevention)
16% of
high school sophomores have had four or more sexual partners.
Two-thirds
of graduating seniors engaged in intercourse and 50% of all
high schoolers. More than one-third said they regretted it.
(1999 survey cited by U.S. News & World Report, May 27,
2002)
In 1960
there were 90 married couples for every cohabiting couple.
Recently there were only 12 married couples for every cohabiting
couple. (Reported on the "All About Cohabiting Before Marriage"
website)
These
statistics are shocking. But thank God there is some good
news about how kids are dealing with sex today! 1 in
6 teens nationwide are estimated to have taken a virginity
pledge (U.S. News & World Report, May 27, 2002) We'll
talk more on this later.
Oral
Sex
As many
as half of teens ages 13-19 say they have had oral sex and
they don't consider it sex (U.S. News & World Report,
May 27, 2002)
One 16-year
old girl told the Medical Institute: "Oral sex isn't really
sex. It's much more casual, and it comes with fewer responsibilities."
Dr. Nancy
Snyderman who talks to mother-daughter groups around the country
has learned that many middle school girls think that
oral sex is a bargain. When they do it they feel like they
are in control, can't get pregnant, and won't get an infection.
(Good Housekeeping, July 2002)
A teen
who goes to Northwood High School says at lunch many kids
go out to the parking for oral sex - its epidemic she says.
At a school
based adolescent health clinic in Chicago a physician said,
"Kids come in thinking they have strep." When they fiind
out they actually have gonorrhea of the throat "They're grossed
out - and they're devastated." (U.S. News and World Report,
May 27, 2002)
HOW
KIDS TODAY LEARN ABOUT SEX
Often
it's not from their Parents
52% of
teens say that their parents never or rarely talk to them
about sex. Only 11% said their parents often do. (Henry
J. Kaiser Family Foundation)
One
high school girl said that her parents wouldn't answer her
questions about sex so she talked to the housekeeper.
Most
kids talk to their friends about it.
"Safe
Sex" Education: A Deadly Game
Many parents
mistakenly think that their kids are being taught what they
need to know in school.
But one
study showed that kids exposed to comprehensive sex education
featuring condom use had a 47% higher rate of sexual activity
than those who'd had no sex ed at all. (1986 Planned Parenthood
Poll by Lou Harris and Associates)
Apparently,
kids (and adults) like the idea that it's ok to have sex outside
of marriage as long as you use a condom. Then when it comes
to actually using one in the moment of passion it feels better
not to. In a study of couples where one partner has HIV and
the other doesn't, only 50% of these couples use condoms with
every intercourse. (Matthew Porter, MD)
"Safe
Sex" is the prevailing teaching in our public schools and,
not only there, but throughout our culture and in the media.
It's a deadly game!
Imagine
if we taught "safe drug use" like we do "safe sex." Each
teenager could be handed a cucumber and a hypodermic needle.
"Today we're going to practice safe drug use. Practice
injecting the cucumber and when you're done you can get a
clean needle for next time. Drug use is risky, but I know
some of you will choose to be chemically involved. Clean
needles are your best protection. If you can't afford to
buy one at a store nearby or you're too embarrassed then you
can get them - no questions asked - from the school nurse
or a health clinic nearby. Our government provides this for
you." (Teachers in Focus, FOF website)
Or, here's
another illustration that shows how confusing this "safe sex"
teaching is. Imagine telling your child. "Don't use the
car." But then you leave the keys in your Mercedes and say,
"But if you do, it's in the garage and the keys are in the
ignition. Just be sure to buckle up if you do use it."
Teens
- and pre-teens - just don't grasp the physical, emotional,
and spiritual consequences of their sexual behavior. They're
naturally inquisitive, inclined to take risks, and eager to
do whatever to fit in. They think nothing will hurt them.
So they readily accept the "safe sex" idea that they're taught.
These
young people think they're just having fun. They don't think
about the risks. They don't think about the pain they're
bringing into their lives. Their willingness to just do what
feels good now is why those under age 25 account for two-thirds
of STD's and 50% of new HIV infections. (Medical Institute
of Sexual Health)
Studies
show that condom use carries a 10-43% risk of HIV infection.
(I. DeVincenzi, New England Journal of Medicine, 1994)
And condoms
offer little or no protection against genital herpes, chlamydia,
and HPV (human papillomavirus). (From research studies cited
in "Living and Dying the Lie," Teachers in Focus)
Television
The other
place kids learn a lot about sex is on TV. 60% of teenagers
admit to using sexual scenes on TV to learn about sexual issues
(Henry J. Kaiser Family Foundation)
And it's
getting easier and easier for kids to learn Hollywood's values
on sex since sexual content on TV is up more 300% from just
10 years ago and reference to gay sex rose 2,650%! (Plugged
In)
Whatever
happened to "I Love Lucy" and "The Brady Bunch?" When I was
a kid, less than 40 years ago, TV ratings weren't even needed.
"Love American Style" was about as steamy as it got.
SIX
BIBLICAL MORALS ON SEX TO LIVE BY
Save
Sex for Marriage
"Do not
commit adultery." (Exodus 20:14)
"Give
honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage.
God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who
commit adultery." (Hebrews 13:4)
Spouses
are to Share Love, Respect, and Sex
"So again
I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and
the wife must respect her husband." (Ephesians 5:33)
"So do
not deprive each other of sexual relations. The only exception
to this rule would be the agreement of both husband and wife
to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time, so they
can give themselves more completely to prayer." (1 Corinthians
7:5)
Don't
Lust for Anyone Besides Your Spouse
"You
have heard that the law of Moses says, `Do not commit adultery.'
But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust in his
eye has already committed adultery with her in his heart."
(Matthew 5:27-28)
Don't
Participate in Immoral Conversations and Shows
"It is
shameful even to talk about the things that ungodly people
do in secret." (Ephesians 5:12)
Don't
Use Divorce as a Way to Marry Someone Else
"Anyone
who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness,
causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries
the divorced woman commits adultery. " (Matthew 5:32, NIV)
Don't
Give in to Immoral Lifestyles that Exclude People from God's
Kingdom
"Don't
fool yourselves. Those who indulge in sexual sin, who are
idol worshipers, adulterers, male prostitutes, homosexuals,
thieves, greedy people, drunkards, abusers, and swindlers--none
of these will have a share in the Kingdom of God." (1 Corinthians
6:9b-10; See also Proverbs 2:16-19)
APPRECIATE
THE BENEFITS OF KEEPING SEX IN MARRIAGE
No
guilt
Tolerating
guilt leads to a seared conscience with decreased responsiveness
to God
No
unwanted pregnancies
Unwanted
pregnancies my be aborted
20% of
sexually active girls ages 5-19 get pregnant each year, one
million per year (Henry J. Kaiser Family Foundation)
70% of
teen mothers drop out of high school (Teen Awareness, Inc.)
No
STD's
1 in 4
sexually active teens will contract a STD, three million per
year (Alan Guttmacher Institute)
There
are 12-15 million new cases of STD's each year. 68 million
current cases. (The Medical Institute)
There
are at least 25 types of known STD's.
3 common
STD's are incurable: herpes (pain, itching, blisters,
sores in genital area), hepatitis B (nausea, fatigue,
jaundice, pain around liver, joint pain; can causes liver
cancer), and human papillomavirus or HPV ("genital
warts" that swell, itch, and burn; can causes cervical cancer
and kills more women than AIDS). (Teen Awareness, Inc. and
Mayo Health Clinic website) And 40% of college co-eds test
positive for (HPV). (Family News in Focus report)
3 common
STD's are curable, but sometimes difficult to detect: chlamydia
(abdominal pain, discharge from vagina or penis; known as
the "silent sterilizer"), gonorrhea (discharge from
vagina or penis, frequent and painful urination, pain during
intercourse), and syphilis (rash, fever, soreness in
bones and joints, fatigue, and painful sores in the genital
area). (Teen Awareness, Inc. and Mayo Health Clinic website)
Protect
your Heart
Protect
your heart from the pain of breaking a "one flesh" union.
(Instead of toughening the exterior of your heart to be like
Velcro so you can attach and detach as you move from one sexual
relationship to another.)
58% of
women who have 1st intercourse before age 16 will
have 5 or more lifetime partners. Just 20% of those who wait
until age 20 or later to have sex will have that many partners.
(The Medical Institute)
A teen's
involvement in premarital sex increases risk of subsequent
divorce by 50% (Matthew Porter, M.D.)
The risk
of divorce after living together is 40-85% higher than for
those who do not live together before marriage. Over 80%
of cohabitors' relationships will end, as 40% break up before
marriage and another 40% divorce within the first ten years
of marrying. (Numerous studies reported by the "All About
Cohabiting Before Marriage" website)
Cohabiting
men are four times more likely to cheat than husbands and
cohabiting women are eight times more likely to cheat than
wives. (The Case for Marriage, Linda Waite and Maggie
Gallagher)
Women
are 62 times more likely to be assaulted by a live-in boyfriend
than by a husband. (Colson, 1995)
Cohabiting
women have rates of depression 3 times higher than married
women. (National Institute for Mental Health)
Waiting
till marriage allows you to Intelligently evaluate a dating
relationship
Without
the idealization, false bonding, and confusion that premarital
sex brings
"My
boyfriend and I have decided to stop having sex," one girl
wrote after attending a True Love Waits seminar. "We want
to work on our relationship instead."
"My son,
pay attention to my wisdom; listen carefully to my wise counsel.
Then you will learn to be discreet and will store up knowledge.
The lips of an immoral woman are as sweet as honey. Run from
her! Don't go near the door of her house! If you do, you
will lose your honor and hand over to merciless people everything
you have achieved in life. Afterward you will groan in anguish
when disease consumes your body, and you will say, `How I
hated discipline! If only I had not demanded my own way!
Oh, why didn't I listen to my teachers?'" (Proverbs 5:1-3,
8-9, 11-13)
Honor
God (and yourself and others)
"No other
sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual
immorality is a sin against your own body. Or don't you know
that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives
in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to
yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must
honor God with your body." (1 Corinthians 6:18-20)
More
likely to have "extremely satisfying" sex in marriage
This is
the what the research shows according to the book, The
Case for Marriage by Linda Waite and Maggie Gallagher
Not only
do married people on average have more and better sex than
singles, but if a couple abstains from sex before marriage
they are 29-47% more likely to enjoy sex afterward than those
who cohabit (Hering, 1994)
HOW
TO KEEP SEX IN MARRIAGE
Advice
for pre-teens, teens, and adults; single or married; divorced
or widowed; and all types of sexual behavior: pre-marital
sex, pornography, prostitution, or affairs.
"Run
away from sexual sin!"
This exact
advice is repeated at least 4 times in the Bible
Make
friends with people who reinforce godly values
"Whoever
walks with the wise will become wise; whoever walks with fools
will suffer harm." (Proverbs 13:20)
Set
godly limits on sexual desires
The message
in Song of Solomon is that we should set the limit all the
back to: "Don't awaken sexual desires until marriage."
Know your
sexual boundaries and communicate them!
Verbalize
your sexual purity commitment
There
were six factors associated with delayed onset of sexual activity
one was clearly the strongest, by a margin of 3 to 1, it
was an abstinence pledge (Add Health Study).
True Love
Waits and Choices are 2 examples of programs that help teens
chose abstinence until marriage. They help kids to see that
virgins are heroes.
Be
modest
Studies
analyzing the risk of teen sexual activity find A girl who
looks older than she actually is has a greater risk of sexual
activity. These girls are made to look older by fashion and
make-up, much which hints at or even blatantly advertises
her sexuality.
Realize
that sexual sin is exciting for a moment, but painful for
a lifetime
"The lips
of an immoral woman are as sweet as honey, and her mouth is
smoother than oil. But the result is as bitter as poison,
sharp as a double-edged sword. Her feet go down to death;
her steps lead straight to the grave. To those without good
judgment, she says, `Stolen water is refreshing; food eaten
in secret tastes the best!' But the men don't realize that
her former guests are now in the grave." (Proverbs 5:3-5,
9:17-18)
Avoid
alcohol and drugs because they weaken your boundaries
Early
teen sexual involvement is closely associated with risky behaviors
like using drugs, not using contraception, frequent intercourse,
and multiple sex partners. (Seidman and Rieder from Columbia
University, American Journal of Psychiatry)
Deny
sinful sexual desires and meet relational needs instead
Psychotherapy
for people with compulsive sexual problems
IT'S
NEVER TOO LATE FOR A SECOND CHANCE
God is
merciful and eager to forgive. The story of Jesus' encounter
with the woman caught in adultery demonstrates God's compassion
and forgiveness towards those who struggle with sexual sin.
To those who come to Jesus in their confusion and guilt and
brokenness he says, "Neither do I condemn you. Go and sin
no more." (John 8:1-11)
Young
people who have engaged in pre-marital sex can find this same
forgiveness and fresh start. They can re-commit to sexual
purity and begin anew as "secondary virgins."
TIPS
FOR PARENTS/GRANDPARENTS ON HOW TO TALK TO KIDS ABOUT SEX
Share
your values early and often
Young
people need direction. They need values to live by, boundaries
to protect themselves. They need yardsticks to measure their
behavior and their relationships.
The research
proves this.
Mother's
listen to this encouraging research finding: Teens who know
that their mothers disapprove of them having sex at the time
are far more likely to remain virgins than those whose mothers
don't disapprove. (Teen Pregnancy Prevention Center
In another
study done at Michigan State University, Parental involvement
and communication of values were found to be significant
factors in preventing early sexual activity (Study by Small
and Luster at Michigan State University, published in the
Journal of Marriage and Family)
Teens
who did abstinence-education homework with a parent became
more dedicated to postponing sex than teens who didn't do
such homework (Alan Guttmacher Institute.)
People
often ask me how do I talk to my kids about sex. "At the
dinner table about once a month" is my reply. Sex is one
of the foundational moral issues that comes up in our nightly
family devotions. It's in the Bible for just this reason.
So one of our children reads the verse. Then my wife and
I ask our kids what they think and what their friends say
and do. We listen and we calmly discuss what the Bible teaches.
Our children
have heard their friends talking about sex and joking about
sex early. Jenny in 2nd grade talked about a friend
of hers "Dancing and moving acting like she was having sex."
Most parents would be surprised to know what their kids have
heard from their friends. If you don't talk to them calmly
about these things so that it comfortable for them then they
won't tell you what they are hearing and they ask you their
questions.
God's
Design for Sex series of books (listed under Referrals
below) has four wholesome, helpful books for parents and kids
ages 3 to 14.
2nd
tip for Parents: L-I-S-T-E-N!
So often
you ask questions of a teen like, "How was your day?" Or
"What did you think of the speaker you heard?" And they don't
say much. But they know you're interested. And if you don't
nag or criticize then they'll talk when they're ready - usually
late at night when you're tired!
Consider
this. Instead of interrupting a TV show to deliver a lecture
stirred up by an inappropriate scene wait until a commercial
or until the program is over and start by asking what your
teen thinks about it. - Laker's game commercials around Valentine's
Day featuring a story on prostitutes. Another day it was
on lingerie.
Discuss
the risks of sex outside of marriage and the benefits of waiting
(as we did earlier).
Work
with teens to provide guidelines
For instance,
kids need guidelines on issues like modesty, appropriate friends,
curfew, drinking and drugs, dating, Internet use.
Parents
who set moderate, reasonable rules for teens experienced the
lowest prevalence of sexual activity with their teens. Parents
with very strict discipline and too many rules about dating
had higher rates of sexual activity among their teens. The
highest rate of teen sexual activity was with parents who
set no rules. (Study by White and DeBlassie reported in the
journal Adolescence)
Start
by asking them what they think and then work together to come
up with safe, reasonable boundaries.
Modesty
is an important issue. Most parents recognize the need to
address it, but they fear creating a rebellious spirit or
robbing innocence from their daughters. After many arguments,
they give in saying "It'll be OK. It's just fashion."
Parents
have wisdom that their kids don't have and they need to be
confident of this. It's not just fashion, as we discussed
earlier, it's sending a dangerous message.
Deal with
the subject calmly and effectively in your own home. For
instance, help your special parts of their bodies private.
This summer
Kristi's mother bought our daughter Jenny a pair of stretch
jeans. As we were leaving for church Jenny was in shorts
and Kristi knew she'd be cold so she grabbed her a jacket
and those jeans. Jenny put them on and they looked like they'd
been painted on her. Kristi said, "Honey those jeans are
too small on you. We need to take them back to the store
and exchange them for a bigger size or something different."
It was a natural opportunity to teach her about appropriate
dress.
If you
start talking to and teaching your girl about modesty when
she is eight, nine before she's fully developed then she's
more likely to embrace your values. And she won't feel like
you're saying that her new curves are "bad." We
don't want our daughters to feel self-conscious or embarrassed
about their bodies. God made them and they're beautiful!
The issue is the clothes and the message that's being communicated.
Recruit
outside Christian influences
A high
level of religious importance and participation are related
to lower rates of cohabitation. (Reported on the "All About
Cohabiting Before Marriage" website)
Young
people who attend church frequently and who value the role
of religion in their lives hold less permissive attitudes
and are less experienced sexually. Study by White and DeBlassie
reported in the journal Adolescence)
Christian
camps like Forest Home
Teens
exposed to an abstinence curriculum had a 54% decrease in
sexual activity. (1995 Northwestern Medical School longitudinal
study.) Choices is an example of a program in Orange County
that teaches kids an abstinence program.
Recently
I set aside and planned a special weekend with my 11-year
old son to discuss these issues and communicate my values
to him. Together we listened to the "Preparing for Adolescence"
tape series by Dr. Dobson. In a couple of years when he's
a teenager we'll grow through Dr. Dobson's "Life on the Edge"
series.
To
help your daughter/granddaughter choose to remain a virgin
until marriage you can buy her a true love waits ring or "promise
ring." (See "New Hope Referrals" on Sexual Purity)
NEW
HOPE RESOURCES, www.NewHopeNow.org
See the
link "Articles" on our public site home page for an index
(uses same problem categories as the Contact Sheets) of all
the free self-help articles and self-tests available. Here
are three articles from the "Sexuality" category.
"Free
to Love, Free from Lust: Recovery from Sexual Addiction" (New
Hope Notes)
"Are you
a Sex Addict?" (Self-Test)
"Is my
husband a Sex Addict?" (Self-Test)
NEW
HOPE REFERRALS, www.NewHopeNow.org
Go to
the link "Referrals" and the categories "Children & Adolescents"
and "Sexuality" include the following resources:
Abstinence
Clearinghouse: Access to character, relationship and abstinence
programs, curricula, speakers, and materials for teachers,
parents and teens, www.abstinence.net.
All
About Cohabiting Before Marriage: Christian-based information
and research about the effects and difficulties of unmarried
couples living together, http://members.aol.com/cohabiting/.
Choices/Teen
Awareness: Christian-based, abstinence sex education programs
for school-aged kids in classes, 1-714-525-5997, www.teenawareness.org.
Confident
Kids: Christian support groups and resources for kids
growing up with divorce, blended families, family conflict,
addiction, abuse, an absent parent, gangs, 1-805-473-7945,
www.confidentkids.com.
Desert
Stream: Christian-based Living Waters Recovery Program,
conferences, and information for sexual confusion and brokenness,
1-714-779-6899, www.desertstream.org.
Exodus
International: Christian-based support groups, conferences,
and information for those who want to stop homosexual behavior,
1-888-264-0877, www.exodusintl.org.
Focus
on the Family: Christian resources for parents and teens,
featuring magazines, books like The New Dare to Discipline
(for parents and has a chapter on sexuality), the Preparing
for Adolescence tape series for a parent to listen to
with a pre-teen, Life on the Edge video series for
a parent to watch with a teen, and No Apologies: The Truth
About Life, Love and Sex (35 minute dramatic video or
book for teens that uses real teen stories to illustrate the
negative consequences of promiscuity), 1-800-A-FAMILY (232-6459),
www.family.org.
God's
Design for Sex: Series of age-appropriate books for children
(to be read to by a parent) and teens written by Stan and
Brenna Jones and published by NavPress.
Medical
Institute: Educational resources on the problems of sexually
transmitted diseases and nonmarital pregnancy, 1-512-328-6268,
www.medinstitute.org.
Teen
Challenge International: Christian-based treatment programs
in centers around the world for teenagers dealing with life-controlling
problems. 1-800-814-5729, www-teenchallenge.com.
Teen
Hope: Real life and Bible-based answers to the questions
and struggles that teens face today, www.teenhope.com.
True
Love Waits: Conferences and resources featuring abstinence
education, the "promise ring" ceremony for parents to encourage
their children to remain virgins until marriage, and invitations
to teens to make the "True Love Waits" pledge, www.lifeway.com/tlw.
ADDITIONAL
NEW HOPE TRAINING
On www.NewHopeNow.org/counselors
you'll find an archive of the "CE Notes" and exams for past
classes, "The A-B-C's
of New Hope Counseling Checklist" (which you'll need to
complete the exam) and "Responses
to Avoid in New Hope Counseling."
LET'S
PRACTICE!
To receive
CE credit and the satisfaction of accomplishment take the
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Complete all 11 classes for 2002 and you'll receive a special
award at the end of the year! November 18 is the deadline
to turn in your exams to get credit. If you're going for
the award please call Sheila ASAP at 714-971-2494.
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