October, 2002
Dr. Bill Gaultiere
Director of New Hope & Psychologist with ChristianSoulCare.com
(714) 971-4213,
DrBill@CrystalCathedral.org

If you're taking this class by CE Notes or tape then complete this exam and turn it into Sheila on T-5 or at SheilaS@CrystalCathedal.org in order to receive credit. 

1.	1 out of 100 children lose their virginity before age 13.	T	F
2.	2 out of 3 graduating high school seniors have had sexual intercourse.	T	F
3.	1 out of 6 teens today have taken a virginity pledge.	T	F
4.	1 out of 4 sexually active teens will contract a STD.	T	F
5.	More kids learn about sex from their parents than from TV	T	F
6.	People are less likely to have "extremely satisfying" sex in marriage than as a single person.	T	F

7.  Dr. Bill said that the Bible teaches that, "Waiting until marriage helps you to _______________________ a dating relationship."

8. Suggest a referral resource for a parent who wants to talk to her child about sex but doesn't know where to begin: __________________________.

9. Suggest a referral resource for a parent who wants to expose his teenager to a Biblically based abstinence program: __________________________.

10. Is it best for parents to be strict, reasonable, or loose with their rules for their teenagers on dating and sexual issues? __________________________.

Consider each counselor intervention below on its degree of helpfulness.  Rate each counselor response by placing a mark on the line.  An 18-year old girl opens a New Hope chat room conversation typing, "I gave in to my boyfriend and had sex last night.  I wish I hadn't.  I know it wasn't right.  To make matter worse I didn't use birth control."

11. Early response: "Why did you do it?"

Hindering __________________________________________ Helpful

12. Early response: "You need to call your pastor."

Hindering __________________________________________ Helpful

13. Early response: "You should take a pregnancy test."

Hindering __________________________________________ Helpful

14. Early response: "You deeply regret giving up your virginity."

Hindering __________________________________________ Helpful<

15. Early response: "It seems you feel guilty about having sex."

Hindering __________________________________________ Helpful

16. Later response: "What are you going to do about it now?"

Hindering __________________________________________ Helpful

17. Later response: "Your boyfriend isn't good for you."

Hindering __________________________________________ Helpful

18. Later response: "You need to confront your boyfriend about this."

Hindering __________________________________________ Helpful

19. Later response: "It'd be good to tell your parents."

Hindering __________________________________________ Helpful

20. Later response: "What can you do to experience forgiveness?"

Hindering __________________________________________ Helpful

Please respond as a New Hope Counselor to this chatter's comments.  Then use the "A-B-C's of New Hope Counseling Checklist" and "Responses to Avoid in New Hope Counseling" to evaluate each of your responses.  Identify each type of response (e.g., "reflection," "open question," "advice," etc.).

Chatter:  My son Rich is 12 years old and I saw him looking at my Victoria Secret catalogue.  I don't know what to do.  I mean I asked him to give it to me.  He said ok and just walked off.

Chatter:  Should I punish him?

Chatter:  I wish his father would handle it.  He doesn't like to talk about personal things.  He says that Rich will learn what he needs to hear in school.

Chatter:  That's just the way his dad is.  But I think this should be a father-son conversation.  You know, Rich probably has some questions about sex.

Chatter:  I don't think I can talk to Rich about this.  I want his Dad to teach him what the Bible says.

Chatter:  It'd be uncomfortable for me to talk to Rich because I'm his mother.  Boys don't want to talk to their moms about these things!

Chatter:  I suppose I could ask him if he had any questions. 

Chatter:  Where can I find help with this?