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Co-Dependency
Survey
By
Dr. Bill Gaultiere
Executive Director of New Hope
Answer
each question below with "yes" (mostly true for you) or "no" (mostly
not true for you). Then circle each "yes" answer.
1. Do you
tolerate mistreatment from people in hopes of being loved?
2. Do you
depend on people who are emotionally unavailable to care for you?
3. Do you
feel compelled to help people to feel better or to solve their
problems?
4. Do you
rescue others from the consequences of their irresponsible behavior?
5. Do you
feel empty, bored, or unimportant if you're not helping someone
or responding to a crisis?
6. Is it hard
for you to say "no" when someone asks you for help?
7. Is it hard
for you to ask for help?
8. In close
relationships do you lose interest in your own life?
9. Are you
quick to get angry about injustices done to others?
10. Do you
often talk about other people and their problems?
11. Do you
worry about how other people are feeling?
12. Do you
worry about other people's opinions of you?
13. Do you
keep quiet to avoid conflicts with people?
14. Is it
hard for you to talk with a boss or someone else in authority?
15. Do you
feel more comfortable giving to others rather than receiving from
them?
16. Is it
difficult for you to receive attention, compliments, or gifts
from others?
The questions
you answered "yes" to indicate that you struggle with that characteristic
of co-dependency. If you have five or more yes answers of if you
answered yes to any question that is very painful or problematic
for you then you may have a problem with co-dependency, in which
case you should seek in-person help from a psychotherapist, pastoral
counselor, or a support group.
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