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Parent
Wounds and Blessings Inventory
William
Gaultiere, Ph.D.
Executive
Director of New Hope Crisis Counseling, Crystal Cathedral
Clinical
Psychologist & Spiritual Director, ChristianSoulCare.com
For each of the
12 questions below mark an "F" for father and an "M" for mother
somewhere on the continuum in proximity to the description that
best fits your relationship with each of your parents as a child.
1.
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| Abandoned
me |
Loyal/Stuck
with me |
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2.
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| Addicted/Compulsive |
Self-controlled/Sober |
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3.
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| Didn't
provide well for me |
Provided
what I needed |
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4.
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| Emotionally
detached |
Showed
concern for how I felt |
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5.
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| Depressing |
Fun
to be with |
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6.
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| Critical/Demanding
of Me |
Accepting/Affirming
of me |
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7.
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| Spoiled/indulged
me |
Taught
me to be responsible |
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8.
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| Punitive
with me |
Disciplined
me in love |
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9.
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| Didn't
believe in me or challenge me |
Encouraged
me to do my best |
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10.
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| Abusive/Harsh
with me |
Gentle/Patient
with me |
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11.
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| Distracted/Too
busy |
Available
to listen to me |
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12.
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| Disrespected
other parent/gender |
Respected other parent/gender |
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How
to Respond to Your Inventory
The marks at
the left end represent your "parent wounds."
These hurts from your mother and father need healing so that you can be freed.
They are losses to grieve, wrongs to forgive, and areas you
probably still need care from one of Christ's Ambassadors so that
you don't pass the hurt on to others. The marks at the right end represent your "parent
blessings." These gifts need
to be appreciated and held dear in your heart!
You want to thank your parents and God for these blessings
often.
William Gaultiere,
Ph.D. offers "Christian Soul Care" as a Clinical Psychologist
and Spiritual Director in Irvine, CA. He is also the Executive Director of the New Hope Crisis Counseling Center
at the Crystal Cathedral where he's trained over 1,000 people
in Christian counseling skills. He offers free encouraging articles on Christian
Psychology and Christian Spirituality and a bi-monthly e-mail
devotional that you can sign up for at his website, ChristianSoulCare.com.
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